Sunday, April 11, 2010
Myth #5- Virgins can't have STDs
Ah, the devil is in the details, right? And didn't we have a President teach us that it depends how you define SEX? So...many youth today intend to maintain their virginity until marriage, and even wear wedding-style rings promoting their abstinence. However, many of those same youth believe that oral (and even anal) sex do not "count" towards virginity. In the last few months, I've made it a point to ask the groups of adolescents that I've been speaking to whether or not these two types of intimacy impact your virginity. I would estimate 95% have agreed that oral sex does NOT count, but only around 30% think that anal sex does not count.
Where does this leave us? This trend points out that when you are deciding whether or not to be physically intimate with someone, their self-described status of "virgin" is not necessarily a guarantee that they are disease-free. Every sexually transmitted disease except for trichomonas can be passed via oral or anal sex. Oh, and by the way, remember not everyone is honest...
As an aside, I am not intending to belittle the promise rings. I absolutely respect and admire the youth who are comfortable in their religious views and choose to respect their bodies and their faith in this manner.
BOTTOM LINE:"Virginity" does not equal disease-free. Ask more questions!